Why Connection Matters More Than "Fixing"

It’s been a little while since my last blog; life has been busy, as it often is. I’m glad to be back, and today I want to share something that’s been on my mind lately.

Reflections on connection from the Paddock and the Therapy Room:

Recently, I’ve returned to a simple truth that often surfaces in my conversations with parents, clients navigating grief or neurodivergence, and even while quietly observing the horses in the paddock:

People don’t need to be "fixed." They need to feel safe, seen, and connected. In a world that often rewards speed, performance, and conformity, many of us—children and adults alike—are left feeling too much, not enough, or somehow wrong. This may look like a child shutting down during a meltdown, a teen masking their overwhelm, or an adult holding back tears because they’ve “held it together for too long.”

In my sessions, whether we’re walking through the bush, sitting with a horse, or talking over Zoom, the real work is often not about strategies or solutions. It’s about creating space for someone to be fully themselves—dysregulated, grieving, joyful, unsure—and knowing they’re still welcome.

Connection for Parents:

 

Parents of neurodivergent children may ask, “What should I be doing?” My answer is: You’re already doing it. You’re showing up. You’re asking questions. You’re trying to understand your child’s world. Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is slow down and connect or co-regulate before you correct, guide, or problem-solve.

Connection for Adults:

Many adults I work with are just now discovering their neurodivergence or grieving parts of themselves they had to hide for years. Whether it’s autism, ADHD, or trauma that shaped the way you navigate the world, your way of being makes sense. You deserve support that honours your experiences rather than trying to push you into someone else's definition of “normal.”

Connection in Nature and with Horses:

In this work, horses often serve as my co-therapists. They don’t rush healing; they respond to presence. They model boundaries and attunement better than any textbook. They remind us that regulation doesn't come from perfection - it comes from connection.

Whether you're walking alongside your child or bravely showing up for yourself, healing doesn’t need to be loud or fast. It just needs to be real. 

If you haven’t heard it in a while: you’re doing better than you think. And if you're ready for a space that holds you just as you are, Bellview Connection is here for you.

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